The Dame Aer comparision is a clitoral vibrator that uses pressure waves to mimic the flutter of your tongue and suction of your mouth for a knee-buckling experience. This sleek lil vibe comes with three intensity levels, is fully waterproof, and made of the medical-grade silicone Dame uses for all its toys. It was actually the company’s very first product, and it’s still a game changer for couples’ play.

It has super-flexible arms that tuck under the labia, allowing you to place it comfortably in the vulva (even during vaginal sex). The opening is elongated and bigger than other suction-style vibes on the market to include a more varied array of clitoral shapes and sizes. This design also allows you to easily access and change the intensities.

Dame CEO and founder Amanda Couto explains that Aer was crafted using a combination of survey data from suction toy users and their own beta-testing of existing products on the market. “We found that women wanted a toy that would be able to fit a variety of shapes, and that was a big inspiration for the Aer,” she says. The nozzle is wider toward the nozzle but narrower at its head to allow for more ergonomic comfort and a better seal when pressed against the clitoral hood.

One thing that sets Aer apart from other suction-style clitoral vibrators, however, is its rattling sound. While it’s not a dealbreaker for most people, the sound might be off-putting for those who prefer the quieter experience of other vibrators. Luckily, Aer does have a 60-day return policy and will always give you a new toy when you exchange (other than the one you returned).

If you’re looking for a more quiet vibe, check out Dame’s best-selling Dip, a curved, external vibe that fits right in your hand, and fuels erogenous exploration. It has a range of five intense vibration patterns and is completely water-proof for easy cleanup. It’s also the cheapest of the bunch and makes a perfect gift for anyone exploring clitoral stimulation.